On the Appropriate of Osinachi Nwachukwu Who Was Buried At Her Father’s House
I read a post saying that it was an abomination to bury her in her father’s compound. Some people come to the blue space and make up Igbo customs as they go.
It is never an abomination to bury a woman in her father’s family compound.
First of all, in Osinachi’s case, her family duly paid back her bride price to the man’s family after her death. That is called divorce in Igbo culture.
Secondly, in the olden days, Igbo women were never buried in their husband’s house but in their father’s house. This is because, she belongs with her father and was only ‘loaned out’ or given out to her husband’s family for marriage. She is never her husband’s property. Having performed her customary obligations, at her death she must return home to her family.
But now, because of the changing times, women are buried in their husband’s house. However, her family must perform the custom called “ibute ozu nw’ọkpụ”-to bring a daughter’s corpse home, so as to satisfy that customary requirement.